tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5406319356659344188.post1822972001897866799..comments2024-02-26T08:43:47.488-08:00Comments on Domesticated: Confidence, Competitiveness and the Goth CommunityThe HouseCathttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07783576090040274742noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5406319356659344188.post-75699586598921164302016-07-27T05:26:15.632-07:002016-07-27T05:26:15.632-07:00Thank-you :)Thank-you :)The HouseCathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07783576090040274742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5406319356659344188.post-1278692451255029662016-07-27T05:26:04.178-07:002016-07-27T05:26:04.178-07:00Thank-you :)Thank-you :)The HouseCathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07783576090040274742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5406319356659344188.post-52502255339776504682013-12-02T02:29:56.405-08:002013-12-02T02:29:56.405-08:00I'm a cheapskate Goth :P I don't think I&#...I'm a cheapskate Goth :P I don't think I've ever spent hundreds on boots and clothes... I did once fork out £80 for some half-price New Rocks, but that's about the only time I've really splashed out. My usual price ceiling for "special shopping" is about £50, and I will buy something like that once or twice a year. However, I would imagine all my eBay purchases and thrift shopping adds up!<br /><br />My favourite colour is purple, which lends itself quite easily to the Goth aesthetic, but even so, most of my clothes are black. Moi-même-Moitié make a lot of Gothy things with a strong blue component. Their stuff is primarily Aristocrat, Lolita and Romantic, but definitely plenty of blue!The HouseCathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07783576090040274742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5406319356659344188.post-53808381134220371332013-12-02T02:25:25.517-08:002013-12-02T02:25:25.517-08:00Well said! If you ended up distracted by your own ...Well said! If you ended up distracted by your own appearance and monitoring how much you're being looked at etc. then you will start missing out on all sorts of other things that are more important and make life richer :) The HouseCathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07783576090040274742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5406319356659344188.post-39008226453462020172013-08-30T00:12:33.729-07:002013-08-30T00:12:33.729-07:00This is awesome!This is awesome!Charishttp://besttreadmillforhomes.us/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5406319356659344188.post-17244907161034972822013-08-25T17:53:03.391-07:002013-08-25T17:53:03.391-07:00Excellent post. Your appearance should never take ...Excellent post. Your appearance should never take over your life, otherwise you'll spend all your time looking around to see who's looking at you, and not concentrating on the important things. It's ridiculous to expect 'perfection' all the time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5406319356659344188.post-55492377945621613582013-08-22T02:57:55.458-07:002013-08-22T02:57:55.458-07:00Sometimes I feel a little awkward, because my favo...Sometimes I feel a little awkward, because my favourite colours are white and blue (although I still do wear black) and I almost never wear makeup. Then I remember I am awesome and anyone who doesn't like it is just missing out on me. I am way past that stage where I spent hundreds of dollars on goth boots and clothes. It is a little unusual being so colourful though when usually the thing by which Goths recognise each other is clothes, which are usually black.Laura Morriganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16402692693911867276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5406319356659344188.post-22626169024581865792013-08-04T03:51:01.412-07:002013-08-04T03:51:01.412-07:00There's certainly something to be said for not...There's certainly something to be said for not wearing your favourite things too much. I found a Lolita style skirt in a thrift shop a few years back... really cheap! But now it has faded to a dark grey, the trim is coming away in places, the lining is utterly ripped, the top hem is worn through and I've had to replace the zip; altogether worn out. Why? Because not long after I got it, I wore it EVERYWHERE. It was my default 'Goth' skirt; black foofy, Victoriana, lots of layers and ruffles, great over a petticoat. Unfortunately, it got snagged a few times too many, exposed to lots of washes and lots of direct sunlight and had all sorts of nonsense pinned to it. It was secondhand already when I bought it, so I should have known to be gentle with it, but nope, I, in fashion-glee, wore it to death. The HouseCathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07783576090040274742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5406319356659344188.post-79863387351040562102013-08-03T10:43:24.006-07:002013-08-03T10:43:24.006-07:00I haven't seen much of the competitiveness amo... I haven't seen much of the competitiveness among the locals here, but things are more relaxed here than they are in much of the country; so, that's not surprising. Then again, I only see most of the local Goths when we have an event; so, I'm possibly not privy to anyone's competitions. <br /><br />I agree that we have to be practical at times. When I'm around people that I work for, I wear a bit of the Goth aesthetic but certainly don't dress the same as I do when going to an event. It would really spook them, something which is not in my best interest. And why would I want to dress up all the time anyway? It would only wear out my favorite clothes that much faster. Also, I wouldn't appreciate the times when I really want to dress and look gothier. <br /><br />It's as you said, HouseCat; we all need to cut one another some slack for being human. Nightwindhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07148270720593016700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5406319356659344188.post-36435881858650984792013-08-02T04:51:32.642-07:002013-08-02T04:51:32.642-07:00Thank-you :) I'd like to live in somewhere lik...Thank-you :) I'd like to live in somewhere like America, where I can try out shooting with firearms properly - I think it's a sport I could possibly get into. I like archery, including recurve and crossbow archery, and perhaps other forms of target sports could be fun. I'm thinking of going to one of the "come and try" clay pigeon shoots up here; that looks fun. <br /><br />Whatever you are, enjoy being yourself :) Labels are only there for quick ways of matching categorisations, they shouldn't define a person. The HouseCathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07783576090040274742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5406319356659344188.post-62687156916643740882013-08-02T04:48:15.412-07:002013-08-02T04:48:15.412-07:00With the first question, it's mostly practical...With the first question, it's mostly practicality. I guess sometimes if I go out in Lolita-esque or Aristocrat fashion, then I feel on some level that I ought to live up to the outfit, but mostly it is practical. If I was at home on the computer in either outfit I'd feel just the same, but if I wanted to do something active, which most of my hobbies are (climbing, hiking, martial arts, archery, etc.) I'd want to change into something suitable for the activity, same if I was pretty intent on some serious chores/D.I.Y - I don't want to accidentally flash my bloomers to the world, trip over my own skirts, get my frills snagged or trapped in things, rip my clothes (especially as I'm not that well off and the budget for replacement and new Goth clothes at the moment is rather small). etc. etc. <br /><br />I still feel Goth whatever I'm up to. It does help that I have a black broom with a black and white damask pattern handle, and a matching feather duster and quite a few other bits of cleaning equipment that match my aesthetic! There is a Spanish company that I cannot remember the name of that does all of these things. I'd probably have some higher BPM EBM or dark techno on too! <br /><br />I work 5 days a week, and even if I try to include some of my aesthetic into my outfit, I certainly don't dress Goth to work (I just wear a lot more black than most), or at least not recognisably Goth, and sometimes I'm just too tired to put on all my fanciness when I get home. I know I'm not the only person that has ended up a "weekend Goth" because of work, not to mention people who live in places where it gets too hot to want to wear all black, or where it isn't safe (I have a friend who lives in a council housing estate and always change when they get to the Goth club because if they walked outside dressed Goth, they'd get hassled by the yobs on the estate) so all of those people can't be Goth 24/7 - but as long as they like the aesthetic and fashion, like the music and have the mindset, then I'd consider them Goth.<br /><br />It might make them less involved in certain aspects of the scene, but even that is a might - perhaps they sew their own clothes for those days when they dress Goth and are pretty darn involved in their fashion even if they don't wear it every day and check out ever Retroscope Fashions and Alice Auaa update as it happens and own a large collection of Iron Fist shoes, and perhaps they are the sort of person that really cherishes their fancy clothes, so doesn't want to wear them out too much in case they get ruined.<br /><br />The main downside to not going out looking Goth, for me, is that a) some of my own friends don't recognise me without tonnes of black, coloured contacts makeup and a wig and b) I'm not obviously a Goth for all those times a Goth and I who have never met each other come across one another. (That sentence made more sense in my head). I'd like to signal to other Goths that I am part of this subculture, that perhaps we have common interests and perhaps we could get to know each other, especially as I live somewhere with a very small and tightly knit Goth scene. The HouseCathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07783576090040274742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5406319356659344188.post-38843581987894825212013-08-01T17:59:25.083-07:002013-08-01T17:59:25.083-07:00I really like this sentiment- that you don't l...I really like this sentiment- that you don't leave your aesthetic when you take off the trappings or turn off the media. <br /><br />I suppose it is a natural inclination when you join a subculture to want to make sure you really fit in and have plenty in common with your fellow Goth's, in this case. Unfortunately, it seems common that in the effort to establish a shared pool of knowledge and aesthetic appreciation, there are those who put more effort into the learning and thus feel more accomplished. It's good that you and others can remind us all to not fall into that trap.<br /><br />Do you mind if I ask a bit more about how your clothes influence you? You mention that you are still yourself no matter what you wear (making the parallel, to still being goth sans fancy clothes), but you also say that you feel more practical/industrial in the simpler outfit. Is that just an effect of the activities you can partake in? Or, if you were, say, sitting at the computer in the industrial outfit vs. the frilly lolita one- would you mood be influenced?<br /><br />Final question, on a day when you stay inside and do chores (probably not in full goth wear), do you still feel goth? Are you saying that Gothiness persists outside of dressing up or wearing goth inspired things (ie if I dress in a white sundress can I call myself goth?) or that even if you are only goth 12/6 rather than 24/7 that doesn't make you any less goth than anyone else? And is the distinction at all clear outside of my skull?<br /><br />(Underground, you're always welcome to become a Neo-Aristocrat if you decide to move away from goth!;)Lynettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00257255782191322399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5406319356659344188.post-90892435548826594872013-08-01T14:36:10.781-07:002013-08-01T14:36:10.781-07:00You look awesome sans makeup! I think your pigtail...You look awesome sans makeup! I think your pigtails are adorable, and I love that you pack heat for werewolf hunting. Most people who see me on the street or at work would probably not beg me as "goth". Goth is a term I sometimes use to describe myself, but it really doesn't have much to do with the way I look. I certainly don't listen to "goth" music most of the time, either. Hmmm.... maybe I'm not goth!Lydianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11007958932895573564noreply@blogger.com